Be The Dad Your Kids Think You Are


Like Mother’s Day, Father’s Day is an important day on the US calendar for celebrating the man in your life who has hopefully been of great influence. Maybe you haven’t realized the influence your father has in your life, or you are one of the people who is acutely aware of the influence your father has had in your life. I can honestly say that my father is largely responsible for many of my life decisions. He has influenced me both in choosing to do something based on the wisdom he has passed down, and he has influenced me to make different decisions based on some of the mistakes of his life. I am the man I am today, in large part, because of my father.

I’m not going to tell you anymore about my father; rather, I want to tell you a few things about Father’s Day and being a father from my perspective as a father.

My kids are awesome. They are well behaved (sometimes), respectful (to people in public), and responsible (well…) young men. My kids ask me for help, seek advice from me, and want me to teach them about life and what they will experience. My kids are willing to come to me for pretty much anything, and that makes every day a celebration for being their father.

I want you to consider this too about Father’s Day: It really should be a celebration. Too often Father’s Day comes with tragic tales of people who didn’t have a dad in their life or the one they had did terrible things. No one should be celebrating those people nor forced to celebrate those people.

We should be celebrating the dads who did it right.

Celebrate the dad who chose to prioritize his children over his career.


Celebrate the dad who put aside his own aspirations to make sure his children had what they needed.


Celebrate the dad who wasn’t the greatest dad in the world, but he gave it his best and learned from his mistakes.


A perfect dad isn’t required to raise good kids who live good lives and do good things with their life. The dad who invested in his children with his time, emotions, and wisdom is the superstar dad we celebrate. That is the guy who realized that being a father is more than contributing to the biological architecture of his children. He is invested in the people his children will become.

You’ve probably seen the meme that read, “Be the person your dog thinks you are.” Admittedly, I think my dogs are really impressed with me, but I want to be the dad my kids meet at the door when I come home from work. I want to be the dad that can make my kids’ faces light up with joy when they saw me walk through the door. I want to be the dad my kids brag about. I want to be the dad my kids’ friends are jealous of because they don’t have me as a dad. I want to be the dad my kids want to celebrate on Father’s Day.

I am an author, speaker, and leader with a passion for developing people into practical leaders who put their principles into practice. I am the co-author of the acclaimed book Faith Acts with best-selling author Dillon Burroughs, the Chief Operations Officer at the Chattanooga Community Kitchen, and an independent leadership consultant to up and coming leaders and start up nonprofit organizations. My greatest joy, however, is serving Christ and his Church. I am the proud husband of Shay and father of two great boys. We live in Chattanooga, TN. #NoogaStrong

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